Carrie Stadler accuses Okanogan County officials of having a double standard when it comes to sexual assault, says her son didn't get the justice he deserves
I’m so sorry for the victim here—sexual assault is truly life changing.
I’m not sure I understand the claims about double standards. Women and girls don’t generally receive better treatment in the system, in fact, the trauma of dealing with police and the courts prevent many women from reporting sexual assault. Without a side by side comparison, this is probably more accurately addressed as our culture and the systems around it not taking sexual assault seriously. Look no further than our future president and a handful of his cabinet nominees to see that example.
How very tragic for this young guy! But I am confused. His mother says there was a video and two witnesses never brought forth. Why didnt the victim bring it forward? I feel like there is more to this story that we dont know. If there was ineptness on the part of Yarnell or the prosecutors, perhaps the State AG would investigate. Is there a case for violating a victims rights. There is more to know here
There are a couple likely reasons for that. First, it's not the victim's responsibility to participate in the investigation as an investigator, or as part of the prosecution. The onus is on the county to speak with the boy called Luke in this piece and Jayce's ex-girlfriend who was on a video chat with him at the time. Yarnell did speak with Luke, actually. But if Jayce or Carrie were actively involved trying to secure evidence on behalf of investigators it's likely they'd be told to let the professionals do their jobs.
I’m so sorry , Victim. You should have been VALIDATED AND BELIEVED. I never reported what happened to me beginning age 4 with my biological father until I was 21, and my sister finally remembered at 17…we had journal entries and no evidence. He got a slap on the wrist, and 24 hrs of home monitoring.
It does NOT MATTER what gender you are, how you identify, whether you had a girlfriend or 5 romantic boyfriends. THIS STANDARD IS UNJUST FOR YOU…I’m telling you now though, your life CAN BE BETTER. whenever I started counseling I would almost vomit because speaking what happened to me made me sick. I was sweaty and shaky. But my counselor said “i don’t care if you vomit for 55 min and speak for 5. She said you spoke your truth and took your power BACK saying it out loud. She said you keep coming and I promise you the vomit you have is not only physical. It’s emotional. Everytime you puke, your pain is getting out of prison”. Within 3 months I went the entire hour not only speaking about what happened to my sister and I, but also about what used to bring me joy and plans for my future and how I could start “.
YOU HAD MEDICAL EVIDENCE, A VIDEO CHAT, A WITNESS WITH VIDEO, A FRIEND CALL EMERGENCY LINE, AN EMERGENCY SURGERY, MEDICAL NOTES, REHAB STATEMENT 2 YEARS LATER (WELL WITHIN STATURE OF LIMITATION,YOUR PARENT’S ACCOUNT AND PHYSICAL EVIDENCE THAT YOU LOST THINGS THAT BROUGHT YOU JOY. I ‘M A CHRISTIAN WOMAN BUT “WHAT IN THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH OUR COURT SYSTEMS?????” VICTIM, YOU’VE DONE EVERYTHING RIGHT. EVERYTHING. THIS ASSHOLE LITTLE BOY SHOULD HAVE BEEB THROWN IN JAIL FOR 40 YEARS. YOU ARE BELIEVED BY US HERE, FOLLOWING DOMINIC’S SUPERB DETAIL AND COMPASSION AS HE REPORTS.
It’s NOT FAIR. ITS INJUST AND HORRENDOUS AND HORRIFYING.
I PROMISE THOUGH, I PROMISE YOU THIS….YOU. CAN FIND JOY AGAIN. ITS GOING TO TAKE WORK. IT WONT BE EASY, BUT TAKE YOUR POWER BACK. YOU HAVE A RUGHT TO JOY, TO LIFE, AND TO HAVE A FAMILY ONE DAY IF YOU SO CHOOSE.
**AND TO MOM; MY HEART IS ABSOLUTELY SHATTERED FOR YOU. AS A MOM MYSELF, I WOULD STRANGLE SOMEONE WITH MY BARE HANDS IF I FOUND OUT THIS. IM PRAYING FOR YOU ALL. IM INFURIATED.
I’m so sorry for the victim here—sexual assault is truly life changing.
I’m not sure I understand the claims about double standards. Women and girls don’t generally receive better treatment in the system, in fact, the trauma of dealing with police and the courts prevent many women from reporting sexual assault. Without a side by side comparison, this is probably more accurately addressed as our culture and the systems around it not taking sexual assault seriously. Look no further than our future president and a handful of his cabinet nominees to see that example.
How very tragic for this young guy! But I am confused. His mother says there was a video and two witnesses never brought forth. Why didnt the victim bring it forward? I feel like there is more to this story that we dont know. If there was ineptness on the part of Yarnell or the prosecutors, perhaps the State AG would investigate. Is there a case for violating a victims rights. There is more to know here
There are a couple likely reasons for that. First, it's not the victim's responsibility to participate in the investigation as an investigator, or as part of the prosecution. The onus is on the county to speak with the boy called Luke in this piece and Jayce's ex-girlfriend who was on a video chat with him at the time. Yarnell did speak with Luke, actually. But if Jayce or Carrie were actively involved trying to secure evidence on behalf of investigators it's likely they'd be told to let the professionals do their jobs.
I’m so sorry , Victim. You should have been VALIDATED AND BELIEVED. I never reported what happened to me beginning age 4 with my biological father until I was 21, and my sister finally remembered at 17…we had journal entries and no evidence. He got a slap on the wrist, and 24 hrs of home monitoring.
It does NOT MATTER what gender you are, how you identify, whether you had a girlfriend or 5 romantic boyfriends. THIS STANDARD IS UNJUST FOR YOU…I’m telling you now though, your life CAN BE BETTER. whenever I started counseling I would almost vomit because speaking what happened to me made me sick. I was sweaty and shaky. But my counselor said “i don’t care if you vomit for 55 min and speak for 5. She said you spoke your truth and took your power BACK saying it out loud. She said you keep coming and I promise you the vomit you have is not only physical. It’s emotional. Everytime you puke, your pain is getting out of prison”. Within 3 months I went the entire hour not only speaking about what happened to my sister and I, but also about what used to bring me joy and plans for my future and how I could start “.
YOU HAD MEDICAL EVIDENCE, A VIDEO CHAT, A WITNESS WITH VIDEO, A FRIEND CALL EMERGENCY LINE, AN EMERGENCY SURGERY, MEDICAL NOTES, REHAB STATEMENT 2 YEARS LATER (WELL WITHIN STATURE OF LIMITATION,YOUR PARENT’S ACCOUNT AND PHYSICAL EVIDENCE THAT YOU LOST THINGS THAT BROUGHT YOU JOY. I ‘M A CHRISTIAN WOMAN BUT “WHAT IN THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH OUR COURT SYSTEMS?????” VICTIM, YOU’VE DONE EVERYTHING RIGHT. EVERYTHING. THIS ASSHOLE LITTLE BOY SHOULD HAVE BEEB THROWN IN JAIL FOR 40 YEARS. YOU ARE BELIEVED BY US HERE, FOLLOWING DOMINIC’S SUPERB DETAIL AND COMPASSION AS HE REPORTS.
It’s NOT FAIR. ITS INJUST AND HORRENDOUS AND HORRIFYING.
I PROMISE THOUGH, I PROMISE YOU THIS….YOU. CAN FIND JOY AGAIN. ITS GOING TO TAKE WORK. IT WONT BE EASY, BUT TAKE YOUR POWER BACK. YOU HAVE A RUGHT TO JOY, TO LIFE, AND TO HAVE A FAMILY ONE DAY IF YOU SO CHOOSE.
**AND TO MOM; MY HEART IS ABSOLUTELY SHATTERED FOR YOU. AS A MOM MYSELF, I WOULD STRANGLE SOMEONE WITH MY BARE HANDS IF I FOUND OUT THIS. IM PRAYING FOR YOU ALL. IM INFURIATED.
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